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Body Image...

Fat?

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Thin?

Tall?

Short?

Blonde? Brunette? Red-head? Grey or Salt-&-Pepper?

Bald? Long-hair? Short-hair?

Green-eyes? Blue? Brown? Grey?

Hourglass figure?

Pear shaped?

Top-heavy?

Big thunder thighs?

Skinny matchstick legs?

Huge feet?

Oversized head?

Neck too long? Too short? Too thick?

Fingers look like sausages? Or toothpicks?

Teeth white? Yellowed? Missing? Straight? Crooked?

Truth is there ARE things we can change about ourselves if we truly don't like them. There are some things we can't change. 

It appears that the things we cannot change are the ones that usually drive us round the bend. We focus on these items as if that is ALL we are. That no matter how good, clever, intelligent, kind, or humorous we are, all anyone looks at is those so called (or imagined) FLAWS. A trillion people can TELL us we're being silly! But unless they sit in our shoes and walk our journey, they really should shut up!

Sure we KNOW they are correct. Somewhere deep in our psyches we want to believe them, but it angers us to hear someone make light of our insecurities. (Or those who prey on our "flaws" because it helps THEM look/feel somehow, better.)

"Oh, it's not that bad. No one notices!" 

"You're imagining things!" 

"Well, if you'd just..."

Yep... all we (I) WANT to say is "SHUT UP!"

Just ACCEPT ME and STOP telling me to change; or how I can change; or if I'd only...

"Huh?" (I hear you saying...)

Yes, by telling me to stop worrying about what bugs ME you are, in fact, belittling my self estimation and self worth. You are degrading my feelings even further; and I trusted you!

We do tend to think only women have these feelings of inadequacy. Not true, men suffer too. And probably even more so because they are not encouraged to explore (what they perceive as) their weaknesses. How many men do you know who have come up to you and 'shared' their insecurities? Penis envy; height deficiency; over-weight; under-muscled; glasses; 'nerdy'; Yep, men too.

And, as Onyx-Wildcat points out, these perceived deficiencies are internalised and we (men & women) put on brave faces, pretending it doesn't affect us...too much. We can handle the inadvertent slights and un-compassionate comments, we put on our defiant faces and stiffen our backs; we'll cry when we're alone so you can't see us.

But we (I) don't want your sticky, syrupy concern.

We (I) just want to voice our (my) disgust and be allowed to feel what WE (I) want.

We'd (I'd) like for you to understand and empathise, just don't try and 'make it all better.' Okay?

* hugs *
luv khrys...